Why Change Feels Like a Fight
Our brains resist change as an energy-saving mechanism, defaulting to negative self-talk to prevent the resource-intensive process of neuroplasticity.
• Default brain circuitry (nafs) creates resistance by telling us we're broken or incapable
• Change requires breaking down neural pathways and rebuilding new ones, which consumes energy
• When attempting change, the brain offers frightening "truths" that aren't revelations but defense mechanisms
• Spiritual growth often feels difficult because our brains resist new interpretations, even positive ones
• Three-step solution: stop giving default thoughts special treatment, borrow a regulated nervous system through coaching, and shift in small incremental degrees
• Walking through the "panic zone" of the brain without believing its stories is key to transformation
• Small consistent changes compound over time like shifting a ship's course by one degree
Remember to ask yourself: What three things do you want to change but keep putting off? What story does your brain tell when you attempt change? Is your brain resisting because the path is wrong or because it's new?
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